“Men would be far more insufferable than they otherwise are trained to be if the penis was, in fact, a muscle entirely under their control.”
I guess if it’s humiliating to men, it must be good. Feminist professor/blogger Hugo Schwyzer recently wrote a blog post “in praise of ED.” Schwyzer writes:
“In my Humanities class on the ‘body’ yesterday, I noted in passing that there was much to be said for erectile dysfunction. I have always maintained that men would be far more insufferable than they otherwise are trained to be if the penis was, in fact, a muscle entirely under their control….ED literally softens the penis; it can also figuratively soften a man by forcing him to rethink his allegiance to a cruel and unattainable standard.”
In light of this, it kind of reminds me of an odd interaction I had with Hugo when he was on my radio show a couple years ago. We were discussing something related to sex–I can’t remember what–and I said something like “Of course, Hugo, men’s perspectives change as they get older. Like me, I’m sure you’re not quite the stallion you used to be.”
Hugo is a very nice guy, and it’s hard to get him angry over anything, but he was not happy over this remark. I was surprised, and didn’t quite know what to make of it. Any amateur psychologists out there have any ideas?
The Schwyzer post is here.
[Late note: Hugo has written a response to this on his blog--to read it, see Humiliation and becoming human: how erectile dysfunction made me a better man, husband, and person
He makes some valid points and, as is typical for him, goes on and on and on about them. Hugo is a thoughtful guy, and in many ways the world would be a better place if every man were like him. We'd probably all be better in touch with our emotions, and things would be more peaceful.
On the other hand, we'd probably still be living in caves and mud huts...]