Outrageous Case: Military Dad's Kid Abducted by Mom, then Abused & Murdered--but Dad Doesn't Find out His Boy Is Dead Until a Year Later
April 21st, 2008 by Glenn Sacks, MA for Fathers & FamiliesI often receive letters from deployed military fathers (and sometimes mothers) in Iraq, Afghanistan or other parts of the world who have been cut off from their children by their exes, sometimes permanently. What struck me about the heartbreaking story below is how similar it is to those in the letters I receive, though few end so tragically.
The case is yet another example of anti-father family court bias, the utter lack of respect with which the father-child bond is treated, and how some mothers are able to get away with whatever they want regarding kids and child custody. If the system were fairer, if the system cared about Damion Peterson's loving bonds with his son, the boy would still be alive today.
The full story is below--thanks to Don Mathis for sending it. To write a Letter to the Editor of Stars & Stripes, click on letters@stripes.com.
To learn more about the family law problems faced by military parents, see my co-authored column Laws Must Protect the Rights of Military Dads (Army Times, Marine Corps Times, 3/28/05).
Former airman shocked to learn his son has been dead for a year
By David Allen, Stars and Stripes
April 16, 2008
URUMA, Okinawa — It’s been a year since 8-year-old Jordan Peterson died from injuries allegedly inflicted in a beating by his stepfather at his off-base home in Uruma.
But it was just last week that Jordan’s real dad found out his son was gone.
“You can’t believe my shock,” Damion Peterson said Monday in a telephone interview from his San Antonio home. “All in one day a friend said he had information that the military on Okinawa had investigated the possibility that Jordan was abused. And then I called my ex-mother-in-law to find out about the abuse and she tells me he’s been dead for a year.”
That was April 7. A Google search of his son’s name then brought home the horrible truth.
Peterson’s sister found a series of stories in Stars and Stripes that detailed Jordan’s death and the arrest — and later release — of the boy’s stepfather, Roberto Deleon, by Japanese police who alleged the child was beaten to death.
“My brother was devastated,” Marlo Saenz said. “The divorce was horrible, but he had always hoped to see Jordan again. He was the sweetest little boy.”
Peterson, 32-year-old former airman now living in Texas, said he had been estranged from his ex-wife for four years and she refused to let him have contact with his son during most of that time. He said she left him while they were living in Germany and he lost the ability to have Jordan for the summer visitations spelled out in their divorce decree.
“I was single, living in the dorms,” Peterson said. “I couldn’t keep him with me.”
He said he continued to have child support taken out of his paycheck, but had infrequent phone contact.
“She’d tell me Jordan did not want to talk to me,” he said.
When Peterson transferred back to the States and was discharged, he remarried. He now has a son and a daughter, ages 2 and 1, and was hoping to work out visitation with Jordan when his ex-wife, Staff Sgt. Sabrina Deleon, returned from a three-year tour on Okinawa that began in 2004.
Peterson said the last time he saw his son was just before the boy’s mother left for Okinawa.
In the week that followed the discovery of his son’s death, Peterson and other family members have been busy seeking information about what had happened. He said he called his ex-wife in Maryland — she is now assigned to Dover Air Force Base in Delaware — but the calls turned into arguments and her phone has since been switched to an unlisted number.
Stripes was unable to contact Sabrina Deleon.
Peterson also said he spoke to Roberto Deleon before the number was changed, but he wasn’t sure who he was at first. Peterson had not known that his ex-wife, who had remarried a man named Brown after their divorce, had gotten another divorce and had remarried on Okinawa.
“He yelled and cussed me out,” Peterson said of Roberto Deleon, 26.
‘Through the cracks’
Peterson said a friend who worked on child welfare cases at a base in Texas told him April 7 that he had seen files from the Air Force on Okinawa that showed “multiple abuse and neglect cases filed against [his ex-wife and Roberto Deleon] by the Family Advocacy Clinic on Okinawa.”
“But somehow the military allowed my son to fall through the cracks because they lived off base,” Peterson said.
Citing privacy rules, the Air Force and Department of Defense Dependents Schools officials have repeatedly declined to comment on whether any reports of abuse were made to them prior to Jordan’s death.
One abuse complaint was filed with Japanese authorities in November 2006, when an Okinawan woman found Jordan wandering barefoot and shirtless, dressed only in shorts, a few blocks from his Uruma home. She said the boy was bruised and told her he was running away from home. She took him to a store and bought him some clothes, but he refused to wear them, telling her that his stepfather would not allow him to wear anything new.
The woman, Hisa Uechi, now 23, called the Okinawa prefectural police, who questioned the boy. But he refused to speak and Jordan was handed over to his mother.
“It seemed neither the Okinawa or military authorities would do anything for him,” Uechi said at the time.
A year later, Jordan’s death still affects her. On April 11, she left flowers outside the house where the boy once lived. Observing the first anniversary of a death is an important Buddhist-influenced Japanese tradition.
“I just wanted to let him know that he is still remembered,” she said.
A new family occupies the house.
“There was no trace at all that Jordan once lived there,” Uechi said. “It was like his existence was completely and quietly wiped away.”
She said she shed tears of joy when she learned that Jordan’s biological father and his family are seeking justice for the young boy.
After Jordan’s death, the director of the Okinawa Prefectural Department of Health and Welfare admitted her office failed to properly investigate the November 2006 abuse report.
“We should have gone to his home and checked up on him,” the director told Japanese reporters last July. “It might have saved his life.”
Damion Peterson is working to ensure the case does not fall through the cracks again. He has contacted his congressman to look into the matter and has confirmed with the U.S. District Attorney’s office for the Eastern District of Maryland that Jordan’s death is being investigated.
Roberto Deleon remains the prime suspect.
Deleon was alone with the boy April 11, 2007, when he called his wife and said Jordan had stopped breathing. His wife rushed home with a military ambulance in tow and the child was taken to the U.S. Naval Hospital on Camp Lester, where he was pronounced dead about two hours later.
An autopsy showed he had a massive loss of blood from internal injuries, according to Okinawa police, who arrested Deleon on May 16 on suspicion of causing the injuries that resulted in the boy’s death.
But on June 6, Deleon was released with no charges filed. Hirokazu Urata, the deputy chief prosecutor for Okinawa, said there was not enough evidence to prove Deleon was responsible.
“The autopsy showed he died from the shock of excessive bleeding caused by recent damage to the liver,” Urata said when Deleon was released. “A criminal act was highly probable, but there is insufficient evidence the suspect inflicted the fatal injury.”
The military had no jurisdiction over Deleon, a civilian, and Air Force investigators forwarded their case files to the U.S. Justice Department.
The Military Extraterritorial Jurisdiction Act, passed in 2000, treats as a federal crime any acts committed outside the United States that would have been considered felonies if committed on federal lands in the U.S. The cases can be tried by any federal court.
In a message to Texas Rep. Nick Lampson, Peterson said the autopsy performed at USNH showed Jordan had a lacerated liver “and ruled the case a homicide with the stepfather as the only suspect.”
“I was not even notified of the murder,” Peterson wrote to Lampson. “His mother hid it from me for a whole year...
“She changed her address several times over the years; she has retained at least three different last names in the past three years and refused to keep me updated about my son’s whereabouts, as she was ordered to do per our divorce decree.”
“I paid child support for Jordan until he disappeared into Japan,” Peterson said Monday.
“We tried several times to get a current address. We even sought the help of the Veterans Administration, but we couldn’t locate her and she never called us — not even about the funeral. Finally, I just felt I’d have to wait until Jordan was older and could see me on his own and I could apologize for the lost years and tell him how much I loved him.”
Jordan’s obituary in the local newspaper made no mention of his father, who visited his son’s grave on the one-year anniversary of his death.
Peterson went there with several other family members, including his 2-year-old son, Israel.
“I stayed there for two hours,” he said. “Israel looks so much like the engraving of Jordan on the headstone that I broke down. I didn’t want to leave.”
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April 21st, 2008 at 10:26 am
Another excellent reason to not get married. Sad but true. Her actions are more the norm than the exception.
April 21st, 2008 at 10:38 am
"“I paid child support for Jordan until he disappeared into Japan,” Peterson said Monday."
That's no excuse! Just another example of a man being a deadbeat who abandons his children...
Thank heavens for feminists who also see men as victims of the Patriarchy who support more programs to help women.
April 21st, 2008 at 10:44 am
Part of the normal female mate seeking criterion is a male's resources. Just like males seek -- and are very "turned on" by -- the the usual physical signs of female fertility and health -- hourglass figure, clear skin, bright eyes, etc. Of course there are other things which normal females and males seek in each other.
The problem occurs when the female -- or male -- lacks any semblance of a conscience.
In the zero-conscience female, of course the man gets "objectified" as a wallet. Just like female-pandering psychologists like to claim that so many men "objectify" women as sex objects -- while so many women continue push the envelope and then some when it comes to slutifying their appearance -- poor victims of objectification!
And, with the ever-available assistance of a complicit government looking for purpose and employment for
(i) it's generally extremely incompetent agency-level "employees", (ii) great protection-causes to promote the otherwise extremely undistinguished politicians who declare senseless and costly wars on every imaginable thing from "drugs" to "fathers" -- not to mention vast populations of tiny foreign countries who had the misfortune to have a few anti-Americans hanging out in the caves in next-door countries, (iii) low-life lawyers who are the furthest thing from "real" lawyers, and (iii) judges of a calibre so low that you have to go to traffic court to have any chance of finding one less qualified to adjudicate anything.
Is it any surprise that these scammiest of all state government flunkies need to "partner" with women like this one in order to advance their dirty little enterprise?
Doesn't surprise me.
Any decent woman given a choice would avoid America's courts and "agencies" like the family-murdering plague that they are.
April 21st, 2008 at 10:51 am
Fathers are no longer even looked upon as truly being part of the "family."
Mothers and children are part of a "family," while the father is similar to a satellite circling the outer perimeter of this "family."
Given the fact that the father is a "man" he can not really provide anything beneficial to the "family," other than intimidation, fear, rape, batter, emotional and physical abuse.
So, other than being kept away and forced to pay alimony and child support there really is no other use for a father in to days culture.
April 21st, 2008 at 11:13 am
How incredibly sad. Just horrible.
and this is just totally true: Fathers are no longer even looked upon as truly being part of the "family."
Any agency investigating any child abuse must have the power to order an examination of any divorce decree, and must be able to compel DNA testing, and must notify the parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, unless explicitly forbidden to do by the divorce.
April 21st, 2008 at 11:42 am
Jerry,
The only problem with your statement is that, in no time at all, Family court judges will regularly include a statement preventing the family of the NCP's from having access.
April 21st, 2008 at 12:28 pm
Given the fact that the father is a "man" he can not really provide anything beneficial to the "family," other than intimidation, fear, rape, batter, emotional and physical abuse.
Except his money. But the father doesn't actually have to be there to contribute that does he?
April 21st, 2008 at 1:21 pm
"Her actions are more the norm than the exception."
Murder is the norm?
April 21st, 2008 at 1:37 pm
callum,
Take a moment and review the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families web site... specifically read the annual Child Maltreatment Reports. (notably sections 4 and 7).
Gunner Retired
April 21st, 2008 at 1:44 pm
callum Says:
April 21st, 2008 at 1:21 pm
Murder is the norm?
YES IT IS
http://www.glennsacks.com/blog/?p=1919
lujlp Says:
March 20th, 2008 at 4:49 am
My advice to kids being beaten by their parents, stab them in the throat while they sleep. Take it from me the state has no incentive to protect you, social workers dont care about you, and that will never change. Had I known these facts when I was in third grade I could have saved my sister and I 10 yrs of hell
Also I remeber a story from here in AZ about six months back, some guys live in girl freind burnt his kid to death, buried the body and claimed the child was kidnapped
There was another story out of AZ, a hooters waitress, witnessed to have said she was tired of being a mother and wished her son dead - left the child in a car durring her work shift because she "forgot" to drop him off at day care. Saddest thing of all was the father was sueing for custody - she killed her child which she did not want before giving him up to the father
And heres a story about a woman strangleing her child to death to keep her new boyfriend
http://www.news24.com/News24/South_Africa/News/0,,2-7-1442_2249008,00.html
Woman seting her boyfriends clother on fire burn down her own home and kills her daughter in the process
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1355/is_13_102/ai_91752307
Another woman kills her daugther for boyfreids attention, kills neihbor boy who witnessed her, and she cant undertand why the dead boys parents are angry with her because "they have two more children"
http://www.news24.com/News24/World/News/0,,2-10-1462_2290835,00.html
Woman kills boyfriends child cause she was sick of the boy asking for his father
http://www.ksat.com/news/15586264/detail.html
and the best one of all??
Woman takes boyfreind and nearly a dozen kids to vaction in India on welfare funds FOR SIX MONTHS, lets her 15 yr old daughter shack up, for god only knows how long, with a 25yr old tour guide she met once, over dinner. Heads back to england and abandonds her 15 yr old daughter in India, with no money, and then claims she is not at all to blame for the death and rape of her daughter, "I was just niave"
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article3558637.ece
April 21st, 2008 at 2:09 pm
It's a good thing that the military has compulsary check writing classes, otherwise active duty men would be really screwed in the fatherhood department.
Of course, we must remember that it's *WOMEN* who bear the biggest cost of the military. That poor mother in law, forced by the male dominated military, probably was unfairly subjected to this man's rage. Not grief, just rage. It will probably take hours of counseling at taxpayer expense before she can properly bad-mouth her former son-in-law.
April 21st, 2008 at 2:36 pm
Another fine mom.
April 21st, 2008 at 2:42 pm
One of many.
G_R
April 21st, 2008 at 3:19 pm
As a veteran-father, recently discharged, this is yet another example to let the whole world now that our government just does not seem to care about its soldiers, sailors, airmen and marines. It is true that regarding the military, it can go both ways (regarding male and female active duty) however, we all know that the majority of these cases involve males and that they are routinely removed one way or another from the lives of their children. Where is the outrage from the Congress, the House, the Executive? Where is the outcry from the VFW, the VA other veterans groups? This conspiracy of silence cannot perdure as it is based upon irrationality and malice. When justice is not a byproduct of the adjudicative process, it necessarily engenders a fundamental contradiction concerning the first moral act of the intellect and will: do good and avoid evil. When it is an adept of your own government that has perpetrated this upon its own soldiers and their children, both citizens, there will be blow-back--one way or another and this too corresponds to the first act of the speculative intellect: it is impossible to both affirm and deny the same thing. This government is asking for violence in one order or another and it will not be exonerated from the guilt. It has provided the means and it has directed the ends and when a human being is denied the most fundamental things pertaining to the meaning of life--resistance is obligatory. Our voices must be persistent, consistent, vociferous and incessant until the issue is both recognized and rectified. Nothing else will satisfy.
April 21st, 2008 at 4:41 pm
This story, and the cavalcade of tragedy that Glenn presents here, would not occur but for society's (including most men's) acceptance of the vicious stereotype that men are without positive emotions, and therefore really can't love their children -- certainly not the way a woman does. In the feminist version, men are only capable of anger and take pleasure in cruelty.
If you're going to send certain people off to die in the mines, the factories, the forests, the sea, and the battlefields, it's best for all concerned to see them as unfeeling brutes.
The denial of men's love for their families, and that they can love at all, is of great use to society -- especially women.
April 21st, 2008 at 5:24 pm
Wow. And I thought this was bad.
April 21st, 2008 at 6:16 pm
And how many events of children murdered by their mothers can we cite here? Merely from news media sources?
G_R
April 21st, 2008 at 6:42 pm
One of the few things I learned in ROTC was how to march.
Family Court Cadance
by AP
One, two, three, four,
What the hell we fightin' for?
Ain't no time to wonder why,
cause the courts are gonna squeeze you dry.
If we lose our kids to a scamming wife,
why should we lay down our life?
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
I just learned by wife's a whore,
She took my son right out the door.
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
My country tells her she's a queen,
matters not with whom she's been.
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
Never did she ever thank,
me for being her money bank.
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
So I asked to see my son some more,
they said he's gone forever more,
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
I said "no way", it can't be so
they said "he's dead" now you can go!
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
They killed my child and stole my pay,
how can my country act this way?
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
The mother did this all to me,
my country helped her happily,
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
One, two, three four.
What the hell we fightin' for?
Ain't no time to wonder why,
No one knows so don't you try.
I fell like turning this gun on me,
and leave this "life" like 1,2,3...
One, two, three four,
Now who's gonna fight our wars?
They screwed the dads, they screwed the sons
now who is gonna point their guns?
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
Wars were fought by chumps like me,
to keep our land so bright and free,
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
But now we know what is the deal,
while you fight from you they'll steal!
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
We learned to fight for family,
but the courts act like our enemy,
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
What should we do, what should we say?
How can they take our kids away?
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
Men who fight for family,
Are coming home and you will see.
What they can do with what they learned,
corrupt officials will get burned.
Sound off, 1, 2 sound again, 3, 4
runem on down, 1,2,3,4,
1, 2, 3, 4!
April 21st, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Spreading the word, building the Army: http://www.veteran.com/content/fathers-all%2C-veterans-some
G_R
April 21st, 2008 at 9:09 pm
Heck, just when fathers in the U.S. armed services were about to revolt, we see that the U.S. government has at least one cute trick up its sleeve -- a simple way to refill the ranks after they have screwed every father in sight.
Can you guess what it is? Well they are taking felons who have been part of the largest-in-the-world American prison colony to help fulfill their need for "soldiers". Just imagine! A potentially limitless supply of soldiers eager to fight. You see, if we keep locking more men up, we can create even more "ready" recruits. What a brilliant idea! Let's see what else we can criminalize to get some more men behind bars and "ready" to join the Army to get a little "freedom".
Now, who ever said the U.S. government wasn't capable of innovative solutions to the problems it creates for itself! Here's the CNN headline and partial story:
Army, Marines give waivers to more felons
WASHINGTON (CNN) -- The Army and Marine Corps are allowing convicted felons to serve in increasing numbers, newly released Department of Defense statistics show.
Recruits were allowed to enlist after having been convicted of crimes including assault, burglary, drug possession and making terrorist threats.
...
April 21st, 2008 at 9:42 pm
AP,
Caught that didja?
G_R
April 21st, 2008 at 10:01 pm
Thomas,
"Where is the outrage from the Congress, the House, the Executive? Where is the outcry from the VFW, the VA other veterans groups? "
MCA, you are it my friend. We all have our parts to play in this, and with you're pierceing intellect, maybee the
"avante garde" is you!!
April 21st, 2008 at 10:49 pm
menscollegeactivist,
I think you might find yourself surprised at how many of us there are... albeit only loosely organized.
I'm quite certain you understand well enough it's politcal suicide for an elected representative to speak of men as anything other than a heinous vile beast in dire need of restraint or incarceration... lest s/he incur the wrath of N.O.W. and its affiliated organizations.
G_R
April 22nd, 2008 at 12:46 am
Why does this keep happening ? There is no justice what so ever. This poor man lost his son because the court told him that his wife was the care giver. No, his wife was the executioner. This truly breaks my heart ! This man wanted to believe in the system. He did as he was told to do. When he was told to stay away, he did. If he did not, he would have been treated like my son and slammed up against a wall because his wife was saying how terrified she was of my son. Which was untrue!!!!! After she was through with her cheating on my son and getting pregnant by another man, and having my son beat by a bunch of her friends and family , she wanted my son to take her back. He did, and I live in constant fear of what the witch will pull next. Oh, and by the way, SHE IS A HORRIBLE MOTHER!!!!!!!!
April 22nd, 2008 at 12:56 am
My cousin just found out that his girlfriend of 30 years ago had his child. At the time she said it was by another man of a different colored skin "so there could be no mistake" He is a military guy traveling back and forth a lot. As child support is a right I hope she doesn't hit him up for it.
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:53 am
"Why does this keep happening?"
Because these bad mothers know they can get away with it. Family law, child abuse law, domestic violence law is all predicated on the fiction that "no woman would ever do that" (deny a child their father, abuse a child, make a false allegation, ...). Most women know what the despicable minority of their own gender are capable of - it's often the chivalrous males in power who are the problem.
And so when these things happen, those people propping up these industries have to either face the falsehoods on which their livelihoods depend, or look the other way.
In this case as in many others, they looked the other way and a child lost first his father, then his life.
The chances of anyone in the "system" taking responsibility for ignoring this child's and his father's needs: zero. I hope the dad gets a small amount of closure by holding them accountable so that this does not happen again unnoticed.
April 22nd, 2008 at 7:04 am
"" PolishKnight Says:
April 21st, 2008 at 10:38 am
"“I paid child support for Jordan until he disappeared into Japan,” Peterson said Monday."
That's no excuse! Just another example of a man being a deadbeat who abandons his children...
Thank heavens for feminists who also see men as victims of the Patriarchy who support more programs to help women.""
So PolishKnight... What is the excuse then? And why associate "men" as deadbeats when we all know that this mother in the case is the real deadbeat, as she allowed her sons life and death to be hidden from the father without a court order or notification of emancipation by death. Even if she collected one child support payment after the child was deceased, she should be charged with fraud and then discharged from the military. Sometimes the only way to get a court date is to stop paying just so the father can get the original "ordered" rights too communicate or see the child he is apparently "financing" in this particular case.
And when you mean "abandon", does that mean the mother particularly while in the military also abandoned the father while on active duty or remarrying how ever many times within a 4 year period? Or does that mean the mother mentally abandoned her child in the process of her escapades only to eventually have her son murdered in the hands of one of her men?
FYI: A deadbeat is also referred to a parent who gives true meaning to the word which doesn't necessarily mean one whom doesn't pay. All the while, the one who doesn't pay the support does not out-weigh the mental support of a child who needs both parents. This "interest" that our US courts deem a necessity for the welfare of the child(ren) has taken the "interest" in the other context as to the form of a note.
One day the court system will catch up to itself while already being overwhelmed with statistics of mothers relocating their children without the non-custodial parents' written and expressed permission through a court order along with the failure of paid CS. Half the time a father stops paying because the mother leaves the state with the child, which is technically kidnapping, but they don't see it that way nor is it rarely reported ie: Amber Alert. And after years go by and father hasn't paid into the system because he's not sure who or what he is paying for since he cannot see his child, stops payment and eventually gets caught up with, with "INTEREST", inflated as a matter of fact, due to a true deadbeat statistic that is not mentioned but other than a non-paying deadbeat. It makes me sick to think that such uneducated people would typically use this term in such a fashion. So mothers are just as categorized as being a "deadbeat" just as one who doesn't pay support ""repeat""repeat" repeatedly......
April 22nd, 2008 at 10:02 am
Fool me once, Shame on you. Fool me twice, I walked out the door as she walked in from a 3 day party. I had packed my tools and clothes and my sons toys and clothes in the back of the pick it up truck. We left that day never to look back. June 1991
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:22 pm
“I was single, living in the dorms,” Peterson said. “I couldn’t keep him with me.”
I would have made arrangements so that I could have kept him with me. That's my responsibility as a father.
Abandonment, or neglect (dependency on the state for support) would be a reason for the court to take charge of a child, and to make a determination of custody under a so-called "best interest" standard of review. The problem with family courts is, a finding of abandonment or neglect is rarely made, and when it affects a father's natural guardianship rights, requires a strict scrutiny standard of review. The issue is how the state or court aquired jurisdiction over the child in the first place. The court can use statutes relating to the placement of a state ward only after it is determined there is a need to excersise any power under laws relating to guardianship. The termination of natural parental rights may be a necessary condition to the excersize of this state power.
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:51 pm
BinTheredonThat asks: "So PolishKnight... What is the excuse then?"
Er, I guess my sense of humor really needs work...
April 22nd, 2008 at 2:28 pm
ahhh now that you mentioned it that way, I understand! I thought Polish Knight was being passive toward the phrase in quotes! My error and I apologize!
April 22nd, 2008 at 7:14 pm
Being prior military, I know for a fact the gov't doesn't care about your family. Just don't let the little darl'n start calling your first sargent with complaints of you cheating or beating on her. On the other hand when a health and welfare inspection is pulled, on post or off post, if the civilian spouse hasn't kept the home in satifactory cleanlieness it will be the soldier who will pay dearly. I feel so sorry for this child and his father. What I don't understand is why the mother being military wasn't at least given an article 15 for failure to provide safely for child. Hell the soldier will be given an article 15 if his/her spouse writes hot checks all over town on a joint account. What makes a hot check or unpaid debt more important than a child's life.
What is wrong with our society is the narrow mindedness of the social services and the justice system and the judicial system. It is already a proven fact that more children are killed by their mother's or mother's significant other than are ever harmed by father, according to the FBI crime data statistics, yet police, judges, and social services alike keep turning a blind eye. Oh I forgot it is only murder if the father kills the child, if the mother kills a baby it is called infantcide.
On a recent visit to the local Attorney General's branch office in Paris, TX, the man I spoke to about the mother of my grandson returning the child's letters and not giving them to him, told me several time's to just remember my son chose her. I'm not a very fast thinker, but after leaving there and thinking over his statements, I have news for him and all the rest that think MEN chose the WOMEN. NOT SO. Especially when you are targeted by a physcopath. Yes, men this is coming from a woman, you do not chose, you are chosen or targeted.
If you get lucky enough to be chosen, you can bet your bottom dollar, she looked at your pocket book first, your social status and how big a ring she will be able to demand. Very rare is the just for love marriage anymore. If your pocket book is big enough or the social status inviting enough, she won't really care what the heck you look like or how faithful you will be. IF the pocket book isn't all that big and the social status doesn't exist, then she will look at your looks and "other assetts" and decide if she can still get by with demanding only the biggest and best because you are so lucky to have "her". Last but not least, and these are the ones that cause the most grief, is the lazy have nothings, that might have a pretty face and cute behind, that feels the world owes her and she is going to get it at any cost. She only cares about getting pregnant by you, (if you are stupid enough to marry her, it won't last). She sees her children as possessions, tools, weapons to be used to get her way, and to get that ever lovin' child support so she don't have to work. A child to her is not cherished and nurtured as they should be, but a power play that she will hold over your head as long as she has a use for it, and then to be discarded without a second thought, when it is of no further use.
I guess I said enough this time.
April 22nd, 2008 at 10:22 pm
Nancy thank you,
We need the help of reasoneable women to stand up to the twisted sisters, and their hysteria. The situation has been getting worse for men/fathers/boys for a while now...and it will be rectified.
One way or the other, men will return to equality under the law, and the situation we are now in will be made much easier if there are at least a few reasoneable women that are with us.
April 22nd, 2008 at 10:50 pm
Nancy (and mca),
Please rest assured you're neither a echo in the forest... nor alone. Have either of you looked into the 'second wives club'? Wives married to divorced men subjected to the ploys of petty vindictive ex-wives using the courts and the kids to make life miserable for the man.
Thery've a web site, I'll try to find it and post it here.
G_R
April 23rd, 2008 at 12:18 am
Thank you GR and MCA, Let me set the record straight, I am basically a single mom, twice divorced and once widowed. I only have the one son, whom I did raise alone without child support and have been single more of my life than I was ever married. I used to think the deck was stacked against women and children, but have come to realize that if you try to obey the law and follow the rules that is when the deck is stacked against you.
I got active in Father's rights and the rights of children to have a father because of my son. First as a small boy he made me realize in so many ways that though I loved him, protected him, and set all else aside for him, that no matter what, I couldn't satisfy his need for a father. As he left the toddler age and started school, I again was reminded many times how much the child wanted and needed a father. Working two to four jobs at a time in order to support him and make sure he was safe and healthy didn't allow much time to make sure he was happy. He wasn't taught to pitch a ball, to bait a hook, or so many other things that men should teach their sons. As he entered puberty and it came time for the birds and bees talk, you don't know how I wished he had a father to go to, to answer his questions and explain the facts of life to him. Many times over through his life I have seen my son suffer from the lack of a father. Though I done my best to be mother and father, I know all my son really wanted was "a normal family" and even heatedly voiced it to me many times during his teenage years.
Now my son is a grown man with a son of his own. He, though he never really had an example set for him, is one heck of a great dad, that is if the courts would only allow him to be. He was right there for the birth of his child, took all the parenting classes, changed diapers, mixed formula, took his baby to work with him weeks on end because "mom" had a bad habit of not changing diapers, making formula, and of leaving the baby unattended while she was at the neighbors house or leaving the child in a running auto while she went into the store, and if she didn't get her way on whatever, she would grab the baby and run home to her grandmother regardless of weather conditions, Call my son and inform him he would never see his son again, nor did she ever really dress the child properly for the weather.
I have pictures of my grandson with bruises put on him by his mother, he has suffered a black eye at her hands, she has attacked me, her own grandmother, and my son, not to mention in the past her sisters and her mother among others. She has attempted to run us off the road with her car, while she had her children in the car with her. She has hit my grandson with a broom stick on the side of his hip, lifted him repeatedly by one arm, so now he has a very weak shoulder socket, given him a busted lip, and the child has had many more infections on his privates than I care to count due to her lack of attention to cleanliness so very important for an uncircumcised child. My list goes on.
The bottom line is, it doesn't matter what she does, the courts in texas and the so called child protective system refuses to follow the letter of the law and acknowledge that fathers have a right to their children just as much as mothers do. They turn a blind eye to the fact that just as many women as men should not be allowed to breed. They would rather see a child stay on welfare row, than have a permanent home, all for the sake of not taking a child away from his/her mother. WELL it just as it takes a lot more than just planting a seed to be a daddy, it takes a lot more than birthing a child to honestly call yourself a mother.
I see my son's pain everyday and I fear the day we get a phone call that informs us of my grandson's death at the hands of "mom" or her significant other.
My advice to every man out there is take charge now, control who bears your children. They now have birth control for men, my understanding is it has been available in Europe for years, just not here. Don't leave that decission up to the female or trust a condum as I have know a lot of women that have taken a needle and poked holes in the thing through the packaging, so even if she pretends to want to practice safe sex, be one up and make sure you are on the pill, then she can poke all the holes she wants. My second advice is to start paying attention to who is running for office and pin them down on where they stand on the issues of fathers raising their children, child protective issues, etc. IF they don't give you a satisfactory answer, then make sure you go to the polls and vote against them.
Maybe someone could start a public list of judges who are not father friendly. I will start it with : the "honorable" Scott McDowell, 62nd judicial district, paris, Lamar county TX. Lawyers here that are not father friendly are Judy Hodgekiss, Gary Young, Michael Mosier, George Preston, also my list includes the court appointed home study professional Gary Marlowe, that took our money and didn't conduct a proper homestudy, Cps workers who failed to act in a timely fashion or turned a blind eye to the neglect and abuse of the child, Christy Rose, Tim McCaw, Geri Garrison, Coco Hicks, Mr. Teire (sp.)
As for the second wives group, I don't plan on remarrying, but in my own relationship, I suffer now for the conduct of those that came before me. When I say suffer, I mean in the distrust of allowing your feelings to show, getting involved again, etc. But on the other hand, I too am guilty of always waiting for the other shoe to fall, keeping a part of myself aloft, not being able to trust completely or to even believe that it could last. That is the price we pay for being to trusting in our younger days.
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:44 am
Nancy,
Your son has the misfortune of living the 3rd worst state in the country for fathers to divorce in (Calif is #2, Mass is #1). AllI can say is tell your son to thank his stars he has not been accused of molesting the child. Further, tell him to thoroughly document EVERYTHING in line item detail date/time/when/what/where/who and witnesses present in a ledger and to never give that ledger to anyone for any reason. Keep copies of everything legal, receipts discussing costs and expenditures to/for/on behalf of the child.
And then be patient.
From someone who's been there: DO NOT TRY TO FIGHT TAGOs (Tx AGs Office, nobody has that kind of money), he will lose and waste his money doing the losing.
The best hope he has now is look forward to the day the child turns 18 whence he may hopefully initiate a meaningful relationship with the child.
Oh, and add a name to your Judges Hall of Shame: Watt Murrah, Medina County.
G_R
April 23rd, 2008 at 10:28 am
I pray that some day we will all be seen as parents and children will no longer be seen as property...chattel if you will.
I prayed daily that the Air Force would see the abuse my mother gave to me, I prayed that police would "take" me away, I prayed that the rest of my family would care enough to rescue me from the abuse. It did not happen, but this was the 1960's and '70's. I would like to think that a child in a similar situation would be removed from the home. But I guess in 40 years things still have not changed enough and if it is the mother who is the abuser, then that is alright and everyone will still look the other way.
April 23rd, 2008 at 12:26 pm
Sierra,
"if it is the mother who is the abuser, then that is alright"
You are correct.
Gunner_Retired
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:19 pm
Nancy,
If you care to recount your experience to a veterans web site (in an effort to bring more attention the matter under discussion), I've started a thread on the 'Veteran' (with the requisite 'w's and dot com etc) page under General Discussion Header.
When we get enough people onboard who see the travesty for what it is and get the point through that it does happen and it happens a lot more often than is generally known... perhaps change will happen.
Gunner Retired
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:30 pm
sierra, and Nancy sanders,
The twisted sisters have cried hysterically to not recognise womens violence.
They are raking in feminist pork dollars through the creation of anti-male panic hysteria.
They have childrens blood on their perverted hands by refusing to recognise womens violence.
you go girl!!
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:55 pm
mca,
Speaking of women with blood on their hands, here's a partial compilation: http://boards.msn.com/MensLifestyleboards/thread.aspx?threadid=639487 .
Gunner Retired
April 23rd, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Gunner,
I will do what ever I can to help. They just run a piece in our local paper today about prevention of child abuse. They have 88 pairs of shoes in the courthouse to represent the 88 children removed from their homes in lamar county for abuse or neglect. I am going to take a pair of my grandson's shoes and set them to the side away from theothers to represent one child they refused to help. last year I posted his picture on the bulletin board and they promptly removed it. Someone had the nerve to tell me I was exploiting the child. I am going back tomorrow lets see how long the shoes stay there.
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:01 pm
Nancy,
Here's a hint: get loud, then get louder... then get very loud. Never back up, never back down... and never ever ever ever ever ever say anything you cannot absolutely support in fact (it gives them a crack to shove a wedge into to distract you from the point you're trying to get across).
Then yell.
Really really loud.
And may I open my archives to you to cull information from? Email is
G-R
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:11 pm
Oh hell... email Glenn for it, Glenn, please do forward it to her if she asks.
G_R
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:42 pm
Gunner,
I have no problem with mine being out there, When I get spam, I just block. mine is nancy_ellen56 and I do like yahoo. Hopefully we will see my grandson this summer, but it comes at great risk. She has contacted my son and told him that she wants him to pick him up for the summer. I have no ideal what she is up to, but I can guarantee it is self serving and from past experience hope for the best but fear the worst.
April 24th, 2008 at 4:30 am
Nancy,
Here's a start to formulating a 'battle plan':
1) Educate yourself on the totality of false allegations, gender disparities in tax payer funded resources for victims of sexual assaults, DV/IPV and so called crime against women. I can help you there with data and studies... I've sent you some information and I have a LOT more; also browse the archives here at Glenns and also Ned Holsteins, Anti-Misandry dot com and other sites for information to use when speaking to your family, friends, relatives and and coworkers. Just as I tell everyone else, be very careful to never say or post anything that you cannot speak of from your own personal experience or cite an authoritative and respectable source (I use the AVSRs, NCVS, CMRs and NCJs a lot).
2) Wherever you see or hear Misandry, step up to the plate and call it for what it is. Do not let yourself be dragged into pissing matches over he did this vs she did that or she did this vs he did that: Misandry is like a hydra, killing the heads is a fools errand... go for the body ie the totality of Misandry across the spectrum of life wherever it rears its ugly head. Stay calm when confronted by feminist rhetoric and venomous tripe, speak and cite facts and data. Do not back up and do not back down.
3) Contact your local, state and federal level elected representatives and make it clear as their constituent you expect them to introduce (and push for passage) legislation criminalizing false allegations of sexual assault/rape and false allegations of child sexual misconduct, with mandatory harsh sentencing guidelines for false accusers. Insist that such legislation specifically include language addressing full and complete (and public) exoneration for the falsely accused, real world compensation including lost income and property assets for the falsely accused and language mandating full and complete restitution of all expenses and costs incurred effecting competent legal defense against false allegations.
If we can get a national registry of false accusers written into law... hoo yah!
4) Contact your local, state and federal level elected representatives and insist they introduce (and push for passage) legislation availing male victims of sexual assault and DV/IPV taxpayer funded resources and assistance in a manner equilateral to resources made available for female victims of sexual assault and DV/IPV.
Good luck!
Gunner Retired
April 28th, 2008 at 10:19 pm
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July 26th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Does antone know when is the Courtdate for Deleon is?
October 29th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
Deleon was convicted of second degree muder october 23, 2009 in Maryland. As for his wife Staff Sgt. Sabrina Deleon, well i hope something happens to her nad soon. His sentencing is set for January 6 2010. To my understanding, this woman had another child by this monster, since Jordan's death. Hopefully she will be court martialed, because she knew what was going on. And for the woman out there, wake up. Some of us are gold diggers looking for free tickets and allotment, and many do use those children to play tug of war with. It's just plain shameful, so stop being in denial!