Fathers and Families' Holstein Discusses McNair Murder on Radio (Audio Available)
July 13th, 2009 by Glenn Sacks, MA for Fathers & Families
Fathers and Families' Ned Holstein, MD discussed the murder of former NFL star Steve McNair at the hands of his 20-year-old girlfriend on the Afternoon News on KFBK AM 1530 in Sacramento (7/9/09). To listen to the audio of his appearance, click here.
Holstein, MD, a public health specialist, also discussed the case on the Kevin Wall Show on KTSA AM 550 in San Antonio, Texas (7/9/09).
Holstein pointed out that while there are over 10,000 media entries on Google News for "Steve McNair," hardly one of them is paired with the phrase "domestic violence."

Wall was sympathetic and asked Holstein why men hesitate to report domestic violence. Holstein explained that they are afraid of the impact a split could have on their kids, are afraid the police will arrest them, and are also ashamed and embarrassed.
Holstein will be discussing the McNair murder on the radio in Cincinnati Monday at 7 PM PST--to listen live via the web, click here.
Holstein says:
As a result of the tendency to ignore domestic violence by women, many children are placed in the custody of violent mothers instead of non-violent, fit fathers. Yet research shows that women's violence, like men’s, is tightly correlated with family violence injury risks to all parties— including children. Ignoring female-on-male violence undermines efforts to raise children in violence-free homes.
Holstein, MD adds:
Many commentators are criticizing McNair because his murder revealed that he was apparently having an extramarital affair. This is another double-standard on men & DV--it’s very hard to imagine the media criticizing a married woman who was gunned down by her boyfriend.



























July 13th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
Holstein explained that they are afraid of the impact a split could have on their kids, are afraid the police will arrest them, and are also ashamed and embarrassed.
Odd. Worrying about the welfare of the children and feelings of shame/embarrassment. Aren't those also reasons why women victims are reluctant to report DV?
July 13th, 2009 at 3:33 pm
I disagree with Ned, its not domestic violence. This was an act of violence by people (women) towards men - that is not domestic violence.
Remember Feminism is a radical idea that women are people, and men are not.
July 13th, 2009 at 3:51 pm
Danny said: "Odd. Worrying about the welfare of the children and feelings of shame/embarrassment. Aren't those also reasons why women victims are reluctant to report DV?"
No, because they will have automatic custody of the kids, the male will automatically get arrested, and the general public will be automatically sympathetic to them no matter what the details are. And that's exactly the point, that Ned was making.
Pankaj: Domestic violence is violence committed at home (domestic = at home), so any kind of spousal violence meets that definition. I think the media generally reports violence against women by domestic partners as DV, regardless of the type of violence.
July 13th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Holstein says..."As a result of the tendency to ignore domestic violence by women, many children are placed in the custody of violent mothers instead of non-violent, fit fathers. Yet research shows that women's violence, like men’s, is tightly correlated with family violence injury risks to all parties— including children. Ignoring female-on-male violence undermines efforts to raise children in violence-free homes."
MCA says..this about sums it up folks!!
July 13th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
Tom:
No, because they will have automatic custody of the kids, the male will automatically get arrested, and the general public will be automatically sympathetic to them no matter what the details are. And that's exactly the point, that Ned was making.
Oh yeah I know. I was trying to be sarcastic but should have added some marking like a tag or something.
July 13th, 2009 at 4:22 pm
Tom,
You are it!
July 13th, 2009 at 4:30 pm
Here's another sport figure allegedly murdered by his wife he was also killed while sleeping
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/story/2009/07/11/gatt-dead.html
July 14th, 2009 at 10:55 am
maybe it's fashionable now.
July 14th, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Wasn't surprised at all that the forst words out of the female radio show host was that Steve McNair wasn't a model citizen. Not in so many words, she was saying what just about everyone else is saying: HE DESERVED WHAT HE GOT.