Wife Says 'He Never Put One Hand on Me,' but DV Charge Takes NY Anchorman off Air
November 1st, 2009 by Robert Franklin, Esq.It's a continuing saga. The mere allegation of domestic violence can lead to dire consequences even if disproven, even if recanted by the accuser.
In this case, it's high profile TV anchorman Dominic Carter of NY1 television (New York Daily News, 10/29/09). He's one of their most-watched news anchors, but he's been yanked off the air. Why? Because over a year ago, his wife accused him of DV. Never mind that she sent a letter to prosecutors a month later saying,
"I have to set the record straight. My husband never put one hand on me."
Marilyn Carter backed up those words in court on Thursday, October 29th, telling Justice Arnold Etelson that she had lied in claiming Dominic had attacked her. But despite her withdrawal of her claims, Dominic Carter was taken off the air and placed on an extended leave of absence the same day his wife gave her testimony exonerating him. "Dominic will not be appearing on New York One," said general manager Steve Paulus.
Reading the whole article, Marilyn Carter's backup story - that she was beaten by a day laborer - doesn't sound overly plausible either. So when Dominic responded to a question about exactly what had happened this way,
"There are certain things that I can't say because it's personal and private and I don't want to destroy my wife's character,"
it suggests a lot, but says little. Of course his wife may have been telling the truth in the first place and thought better of it when she cooled down and figured out that she was in the process of destroying her husband's career. That's the same career that may be her meal ticket.
But the fact is, we'll never know what happened. That's because only two or possibly three people were present and the day laborer won't be found because Marilyn Carter says she doesn't remember his name. That leaves her and her husband, and they're not talking.
What we do know is that, in a case in which the complainant has recanted both in writing and under oath in court, the accused has at least temporarily lost his job. Perhaps more important to Carter, though, is his reputation. A highly-respected newsman, his reputation as trustworthy is all-important to him. As he told the court, "In the court of public opinion, if I leave here without an opinion, my career is over."
Would an allegation of car theft that the alleged victim admitted was made up be sufficient to place Dominic Carter under a cloud? What about a DUI that the officer admitted he fabricated? Would anyone even notice?
But an allegation of DV - even one that's been recanted twice - is enough to ruin a man's career.
It's the society we live in. Is it the society we want?
Thanks to Jeremy for the heads-up.
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November 1st, 2009 at 10:31 am
So if a woman is angry and wants to hurt or destroy a man WITHOUT LAYING A HAND ON HIM, she only needs to allege (not prove) that her husband/boyfriend/lover has committed DV against her. Then the DV army will descend upon the man and ravage his rights, dignity, freedom and consequently even his livelihood!
I say what this woman has done is committed a form of DV!!!
Why torture the man this way. Give him some dignity and shoot him right between the eyes! After all he is a monster evil man (she said so) and there is no meaningful purpose for a man to argue otherwise in the public eye or the eyes of the court where the balance of justice has only a few links left attached on the side of the beam that represents men and a forgotten justice they once enjoyed. There is nothing to grab onto for men as they stare at an unreachable hope as men one by one slowly get devoured in the fiery hell of injustice. There is no escaping it!
No wonder women feel so empowered and men simply cower as they are defenceless with shields designed to ward off a sword attack when men are being attacked by women wielding weapons that have the power of nuclear proportions.
The only way to stop this is for men to stand up for their rights and stop sacrificing their own well being in hopes of matters being or getting better. They will not! And men, such as this man, who choses to not hold his malicious wife accountable is attributing to the demise of the next male victim of false DV claims by unscrupulous greedy women.
This is a classic reaction of a victim being abused!!! And that's what this is ABUSE!!! Pure and simple! I thought society was against abuse and against DV. So why are abused men allowed to not only suffer in silence this way but also being calmly ignored by authorities and the public! Why?
Men!!! We must brake free of this horrible bondage!!! And we MUST do it NOW!!!
DON’T LET ANYONE ABUSE YOU!!!
Attila
November 1st, 2009 at 10:33 am
The sexual grievance industry insists that when women say they've been abused, the very allegation acts as a sort of truth serum that renders them incapable of lying, but when they recant, their recantations are at the very least suspect and most likely false.
The problem is, we can't believe a single thing that emanates from the sexual grievance industry. Its representatives make up statistics to promote a pro-woman ideology and that find no support in any objective study. The assertion that women don't lie about such matters is simply false, but the myth has become etched onto our culture's DNA. The bigger problem is that we have handed to one class of our citizens the power to destroy another class with a lie. It is the single biggest issue in the men's rights movement. We need to make our voices heard by the chivalrous politicians who are the feminists' useful idiots.
November 1st, 2009 at 10:35 am
"Is it the society we want?"
I don't know what kind of society you want.. but this is definitely the kind of society I need to point out (and laugh) at the ridiculous idea that violence should be the dominant mode of social organization. The problem is not that a potentially innocent man is being attacked from all sides. The problem is not that a potential victim of DV might be making her peace with her bad husband. It is that violent force is to be used to resolve every problem between the two people.
November 1st, 2009 at 11:19 am
I love it. Most domestic arguments probably start over money, in most cases the money men earn and women feel entitled to blow through with reckless abandon. Did he give her the infamous Duluth wheel "angry stare"? In any case she managed to cut off her income to spite his face. Good luck in the job market cup cake....
November 1st, 2009 at 11:25 am
Get gender feminism out of our law enforcement system. They have debauched our law enforcement community into "manufacturing statistics" for them...so they both can cash in this "manufactured hysteria"... for state and federal dollars.
Get gender feminism out of our law enforcement system, they have no idea how to maintain law and order...if fact they may actually be manufacturing a matriarchal underclass of disorder.
November 1st, 2009 at 11:37 am
This is the kind of thing that made the United States of America necessary in the first place. Half the amendments were about this sort of thing. America's men are going to find themselves waking up in the world the english men wake up in.
November 1st, 2009 at 11:54 am
That was meant to read,
Men!!! We must break free of this horrible bondage!!! And we MUST do it NOW!!!
Attila
November 1st, 2009 at 12:24 pm
stop the pandering ...cut govt. women only programs...for real equality
November 1st, 2009 at 10:25 pm
Oh man up...
False allegations rarely happen... and when they do its not a big deal... men can actually "learn" from the experience.
hhahahahahahahaha'
btw
stop being evil and oppressing raping beating women and perhaps this won't happen to you..
hahahahahahaha
November 1st, 2009 at 10:28 pm
Now you see that women have ALL the power..... They can destroy you just for the hell of it.... just for kicks...
November 2nd, 2009 at 2:11 am
All you have to do these days is look at a women the wrong way and your life is over!
November 2nd, 2009 at 2:13 am
We have to stand up and fight!! What the hell is it going to take to get men to band together as one and get it done?
November 2nd, 2009 at 5:00 am
Give western women the husband they deserve - NONE. Silence on the outside but lots of men working on the web is a good approach.
Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.
November 2nd, 2009 at 5:24 am
MGTOW:
I wonder if the web is enough? I've been on this site for a couple of years and even though I've seen progress it is incredibly slow, action is what we need! But most of the men I talk to don't even know this issue exists and some don't want to beleive it.
Sad Dad
November 2nd, 2009 at 8:33 am
Sad_Dad:
.. then ignore the one that don't want to believe it, and reach out to the ones who don't even know it exists. Right now, we live in a society where it is widely believed impossible to imagine any situation where males are at a disadvantage directly because of their gender. Of course, many of us know the truth, but our voices are small. So, let's start adding to the chorus. Until we convince people that problems exist, we can never correct them.
November 2nd, 2009 at 10:11 am
Sad Dad:
I have an extensive background in business and have held the position of President at various times. As such, the President of a company is the key salesman. What I mean is I understand sales and what we (men) need to do is sell the fact that men are being discriminated against in every way. It has been said that you can sell s**t if you package it right. It should be not so hard to sell the truth in tis case as long as we go about the right way.
In my view our efforts ARE making a difference. For example I am noticing that the word "men" is being used when writing about DV. That is a step, a small step, but a step in right direction. We must keep plugging away at it. Salesmanship is an art and it takes a lot of patience and time. The key is to NEVER give up!!!
I just got off the phone with Canadian Human Rights Commission to launch a complaint against the Canadian Federal Government as I found out that CCTB (Canadian Child Tax Benefit) is automatically defaulted to the female and within the application it states in bold lettering;
"the female parent is considered to be primarily responsible...however if the male is primarily responsible, he can apply if he attaches a signed note from the female parent to his application, which states that the male parent is primarily responsible for the child(ren)"
What I was told by the Canadian Human Rights Commission employee that took my call is that "Canada Revenue Agency is not subject to being held accountable for gender discrimination and therefore they CAN discriminate based on sex/gender!" They told me they have no jurisdiction over the Canadian Government!
This is the kind of discrimination we (men) are up against. So even the body which is setup to deal with discrimination has no power to stop the Canadian Government to discriminate against a male in this case??? Surely when there is an acrimonious divorce the female will gladly produce a "note" for the male who has primary care and give up her free flow of money!
I have been waiting for THREE years to receive the CCTB money so I could pass that benefit onto my children who have not seen a dime of it while the ex-wife has control over it. I have primary care of my children while my ex-wife has primary control! Equality at its finest! Poor women, they have it tough.
What are my options (about the discrimination by the feds)? File a complaint with the Ombudsman, which is futile, or file a statement of claim based on our constitution which prohibits gender discrimination. I will pursue this to the end. It should be interesting! This all takes time, but remember to NEVER give up! I won’t! Stay the course otherwise we lose and we can’t afford to!
As far as the CCTB, I will end up in court if the ex-wife does not produce the “note!” I have my Member or Parliament working on it as well.
Attila
November 2nd, 2009 at 12:08 pm
I used to be Director Of Sales for over 900 people. Anual Salary $120,000 plus bonus.
Married 10 years. No contact with the police in my LIFE besides traffic tickets.
Wife wanted a divorce, hired an attorney on a Friday.
Next Thursday, I was served the papers. No contact with her on Friday, Saturday or Sunday.
Monday morning while at work, wife calls me........had a MUTUAL argument over the phone. 2 hours later 3 police officers arrested me in front of my entire organization for menacing/harrassment DV. Never mind that I was over 30 miles away at the time of the crime, with NO physical violence.
Spent the night in jail..........given a restraining order while in the monkey cell at court. The day I got out I was fired for being cuffed at work.
Given "parenting time" on Wed. nights and Saturdays. Still "restrained from the school"....missed my little girls first day of Kindergarten.
Went through the divorce process and awarded every other weekend, alternating holidays and two weeks in the summer. Permanant restraining order dropped. Wife awarded $2,600 per month due to my PAST performance.
Now I can't get a job flipping burgers at McDonalds due to a risk of "Violence". Way behind on child support. Have not seen my kids two years come Thanksgiving. Wife married to the "Affair" guy now.
Probably going to prison for CS.
No hope for a happy life. No chance to be a father.
Honorably discharged veteran, college graduate, never been in trouble with the law.
Now I am outcast. Given the scarlet letter of "A for Abuser" by feminists.
Broke no law, rather a politicians definition of violence. A victim of the "silver bullet" in my divorce.
She got custody and a high CS monthly payment due to her divorce lawyers advice......
He should have told her that THIS would be the outcome if she used that "silver bullet" in the proceeding.
A high CS award means NOTHING when you can't find the work to meet the obligation set in the final decree.
Funny on her Victim Impact statement she called me a "GREAT GUY"..........
That's all.
November 2nd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Mike:
Sorry to hear your situation! Sadly not uncommon. There are many people fighting HARD to fix this problem for men/fathers. I was lucky to wade through the minefield that could have ended me with any step I took that had to be calculated to the extreme. That's why it took so long. Got to keep your cool and NEVER give up. TAPE RECORD EVERYTHING!!! That is your irrefutable evidence that will exonerate you in the end! Document everything and keep a daily log.
With your talent, you should be able to become the "employer!" That way NOBODY can dismiss you!!! Provide the same good service to those who would be willing to buy it. I think it's your best option.
DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO FALL SO OUT OF CONTROL THAT YOU WILL BE JAILED FOR FAILURE WITH CS PAYMENTS. You must avoid that at all cost, or it will cost you huge! See about getting a variance to the current CS order due to extenuating circumstances and financial hardship. Fight like HELL because you are at WAR no matter how you think about it. Apply the skills you learned while in service to survive. Get your hands on the Book of Five Rings by Miyamoto Musashi to better hone your skills at battle to succeed against your adversaries!
You can email me at alvhun@aol.com if you ever need anything advice. In fact send my your resume (or whatever you have) to CanMint@aol.com and I will see what we can do for you as I have a need to promote product in the USA.
Attila
November 2nd, 2009 at 2:15 pm
Attila, Mike,Charles,Sad Dad, MGTOW, NE, john, greyghost, menscollegeactivist.org, Justin, Pankaj, and all the other good people who are not afraid to stand up and tell it like it is.
THANK YOU.
As long as the truth is our weapon and we are bold enough to wield it we will triumph over the lies and propaganda.
November 2nd, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Last night I was speaking with a good friend who was victimized by the abusive domestic violence system.
He came home drunk one night which he does have the freedom to do. She started screaming at him so he tried to leave his home. She blocked his path in the hallway to the door which is by the way harassment and possibly kidnapping because you cannot bar somebody's exit if they wish to leave. He pushed her out of the way so that he could leave. She called the cops and had not a single bruise or injury. She told the police that he pushed her so they arrested him.
She should have been arrested for harassment and kidnapping while he was exercising his right to self defense in his own home.
They also coached her into writing a bunch of bad thing's about him on the statement, Coaching a supposed victim of domestic violence should be a conflict of interest, especially when the arresting agency benefits financially from the arrest. They tried over and over to get her to write that he was stalking her but she did not because he wasn't.
November 2nd, 2009 at 6:27 pm
I"m curious gentlemen. Can anyone tell me if there was any physical evidence of violence here?
November 2nd, 2009 at 8:26 pm
EVERY MRA HERE in the USA, do yourself a FAVOR; Tuesday, Nov 3rd VOTE CONSERVATIVE! It's your only chance of starting to turn around the liberal "man drools, woman rules" legislated agenda in family court!!
November 2nd, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Mike's story is crap and should not be possible. But that story needs to be common knowledge. Some how some way I'm going to get a mens studies on colledge campuses or a radio show or something that tells these stories. I think I'll start on my own by making fliers with "GlennSacks.com" and post them all over the place in the area I live in.
November 2nd, 2009 at 10:56 pm
greyghost! That is a great idea!!! Anyway we can spread the word helps and like an onion that is made of thin lawyers, eventually it will have substance. Our voice will be heard. Email me a copy of the flier and I will print hand some out at the Newmarket Courthouse (just N. of Toronto) while I collect signatures. Alvhun@aol.com
I have a petition going right now to hold Stephen Baber, the school principal at Prince Charles Public school In Newmarket, responsible for locking my children up in his office without proper supervision for about two hours. The community is up in arms about what they did to my children. The police, the school, the school board and CAS(CPS) is attempting to cover it up and sweep it under the rug. Wrong move!
Here is what the cops are trying to do to cover up and deny me my children's video interviews www.CanadaCourtWatch.com , second post from the top.
We MUST keep up the fight and spread the word that men are NOT going to tolerate this oppression and tyranny any longer!! I want our dignity back and be treated like gentlemen and like animals in cages. Even they get better consideration.
Attila
November 2nd, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Mike, our stories are similar. I came home to an empty house after work one day. Ex went to the local safehouse with my daughter to dramatize her plight. I found out that the safehouse had supported her plan to leave by providing names of lawyers, counseling, etc. I was served with divorce three days later. 17 days later I was at a temporary orders hearing and my daughter was removed to Canada over a fake medical condition. I was in shock and didn't have a lawyer and they would not continue the hearing. Odd thing is that she didn't even have to get a restraining order against me. I was accused of emotional abuse. She said in the discovery that I threw a hundred dollar bill and a credit card at her. Said I pointed my finger at her. I am still fighting. I see my daughter occasionally, but never get overnights. I am still fighting for access after five years. She is currently trying to have the jurisdiction moved to Canada. My daughter is starting to show signs of PAS at age six. She will not tell me that she loves me over the phone when her mother is present.
November 3rd, 2009 at 8:36 am
Absentee Dad:
You need to contact Brian Ludmer at www.LudmerLaw.com in Toronto, Ontario, Canada or Demosthemes Lorandos J.D Ph.D www.LorandosLaw.com in the USA. Both are experts in PAS and have a high success rate dealing with this.
Abraham Worrenklein Ph.D is a high profile expert witness in PAS cases in both the US and Canada being involved in the very early ground braking cases.
I have met all these people personally within the last two PAS conferences in Toronto. I highly recommend them all. They will be able to set you in the right direction. There is a way to deal with your case so that you may have your right to see your child at least 50% of the time. If your ex-wife is found to be alienating your child from you she could lose custody altogether while the child is de-programmed. Remember a child does NOT hate a parent, even an abusive parent! Only by ill parenting is a child taught "aligned" to hate the other parent!!!
Get your hands on the book A Kidnapped Mind by Pamela Richardson. It is an excellent book that will help you cope with PAS and your situation. WWW.KidnappedMind.com Do not give up on your daughter!!! Keep sending cards, letters gifts on special occasions and phone her whenever you can. Keep a log and photocopies of everything, including receipts. Tape record EVERYTHING to have a verbatim record of your conversations with your ex and your daughter. In Canada the Criminal Code permits you to tape record ANY conversation with ANYONE!!! Use that angle to your advantage! It kept me out of jail while my ex attempted to have me jailed on a false sexual allegation against one of my sons.
You can email me to alvhun@aol.com and I could provide further help if you like. I too have been subject to PAS by my ex-wife, as recently as within the last four weeks! It has a profound negative impact on the children, such that one of them didn’t want to live anymore! Very, very sad when a parent abuses children this way, and I have primary care. My ex stopped her visitation and attempted to have the children believe it was because of something I did which was absolutely NOT true. The children thought their mother didn’t love them any more. Breaks my heart for what these poor children needlessly have to endure.
Attila
P.S. Avoid using the term Parental Alienation “Syndrome.” Drop the “Syndrome” and simply refer to Parental Alienation. I got this good advice from Brian Ludmer and Abraham Worrenklein as they have been challenged in court by opposing counsel that PAS is not a “Syndrome.” To eliminate this trap and need to argue this moot point, simply remove the word “Syndrome!” The rest will work very well.
November 3rd, 2009 at 10:15 am
You may want to escape your hell by moving overseas. There are plenty of people who want you and want to help. I am one of them because I've been in the same situation. hotproton[at]gmail.com
November 3rd, 2009 at 6:04 pm
I agree with dropping the term "syndrome"...In my opinion that word is just psycho-speak that plays right into the hands of your opponent.
When its called a "syndrome", who is going to determine who is the "victim"?????
See the problem!!?
November 4th, 2009 at 11:54 am
Well If I said it once, I said it a million times. The major thing wrong with our legal system that causes these atrocious injustices, is that the legal system has been hijacked by those who only interest is money, power and control. I will now name the defendants, feminist, career government thugs. liars... I mean lawyers, and all the bleeding heart , egg headed liberal types who don't live in this real world with the rest of us.( someone need to tell me is I missed someone, Oh I'm sorry I forgot all the rotten, spoiled , pampered and selfish women who have been told for forty years that they are victims and men should have no rights. There I think I got it.
Now for the solution, men need to learn the law, it's magnificent stuff and it really effective against all these aforementioned miscreants. You don't have to go to lie... I mean law school to be able to use it. Go look up an ole boy from Okla-damn- homa, by the name of Richard Cornforth, he is a master. He is no liar... I mean lawyer and what he teachs can pull the rug out from under the theiving terrrorist bastards. take their minds off violating you and stealing your money. Put them back to obeying the LIMITS... Let me repeat the...LIMITS of the law and showing respect for you or at the very least put enough fear in the out of control bastards to make them go bully someone else.
Once you learn the remedies of law and make the corrupt bastards abide by it, you can win. Powerful little tools like they need something called a COMPETENT FACT WITNESS to make their case and this applys to civil and criminal cases . Also, you can use the law to stop all these administrative actions, because most of these administrative actions ie what is done is most DO mestic VIO lence cases, violates either state statue or various provision of the federal civil rights laws. So take my advise , start studying the law today, and start a study group. I can assure you , you will not have any trouble finding pissed off men to join it.