Sandra James had every reason to feel happy and contented when an envelope arrived through the post. Blessed with an adored baby girl from her marriage to second husband Tom, and enjoying every moment of her maternity leave, life seemed sweet indeed.

She recalls smiling as she opened the envelope and started to read the letter inside - but the memory of what came next still leaves her shaking with emotion.

There, in scrawled handwriting, screamed the word "Slut".

As she read on in horror, each new sentence was seeped in venom and vitriol - accusing her of sleeping around and being an unfit mother to the child she adored.

An immaculate 35-year-old mother-of-three, Sandra recalls: "I was shaking so much that I could hardly read. By the end of the letter, I was crying my eyes out. It wasn't just the crazy accusations themselves which were so upsetting - it was the amount of hate behind them." But these were no rantings from an anonymous stalker. The author of the poisonous missive was, in fact, Tom's former wife - who had signed the letter - furious with Sandra for having found love with the husband she had dumped years earlier."I feel as if I am fighting a battle all the time - and she has come so close to breaking me," says Sandra. "The only thing which keeps me going is my love for Tom, but sometimes I even ask myself if life would be easier if I just raised the children alone, without having to face the ex-wife from hell."

Apart from the abusive letters she has sent to my home, she has also sent letters to my boss and my parents, claiming that Tom is not the biological father of our little daughter, Amy, and that I am not a good mother.

"The personal abuse is bad enough, but there are also the grasping demands for money. She sees Tom and me as an open chequebook, and the situation is so bad that just last week I sank on to the kitchen floor and just sobbed in desperation."

The above is a quote from a new book about second wives. When fathers complain of vindictive, "hell hath no fury" ex-wives who destroy their relationships with their children and extort money from them, they're called misogynists and woman-haters. This book gives great detail on these exes--from the perspective of women. And since it's women, maybe someone will listen.

The quote is also another example of a phenomenon I've seen many times. Sometimes people will admit that "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" is sometimes true, but they will only apply it to well,  women scorned. I've often asserted that often the woman dumps the man, and then is bitter that he finds someone else. It's insane, but it happens a lot, and the above is another example.

The full article is The nightmare of marrying a man with a bitter ex wife: Join The Second Wives Club (Daily Mail, [Britain], 5/11/07)

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