U.K. Singer/Songwriter Amy Winehouse Brags About 'Beating Up' Her Husband
July 9th, 2007 by Lindsey
“I'll beat up Blake when I'm drunk...If he says one thing I don't like then I'll chin him.”--U.K. singer/songwriter Amy Winehouse, speaking about her relationship with her new husband
I've noted on many occasions that research shows that domestic violence by women against men is a significant problem, and the "woman as victim/man as perp" model for domestic violence is a gross distortion.
U.K. singer/songwriter Amy Winehouse (pictured) recently bragged openly about physically abusing her husband. Men who beat their wives are locked up, stigmatized, and vilified--and rightfully so. Yet here a high-profile woman admits--no, brags--that she beats her husband, and it's OK. No backlash or even recognition that this is wrong.
Winehouse is set to perform at Lollapalooza in August and has a hit high on the charts. Somehow I find it hard to believe that a man who brags about getting drunk and beating his wife would be welcomed at Lollapalooza, or anywhere else.
Winehouse: 'I attack Blake'
UK News Yahoo, 6-12-07
Soul superstar Amy Winehouse turns "violent and abusive" after too much alcohol and often attacks new husband Blake Fielder-Civil. The Rehab singer admits she becomes aggressive after drinking alcohol and uses her husband as a "punch-bag" - but insists she is "not a fighter".
She says, "I'm either a really good drunk or I'm an out-and-out s**t, horrible, violent, abusive, emotional drunk.
"I'll beat up Blake when I'm drunk. I don't think I have ever bruised him, but I do have my way. If he says one thing I don't like then I'll chin him.
"I'm not a fighter, but if I am backed against the wall I'll kick the s**t out of anyone.
"I don't think your ability to fight has anything to do with how big you are. It's to do with how much anger is in you."
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July 9th, 2007 at 2:00 am
Glenn, you are too restrained. This woman is the archetype of the domestic abuser, but for one component, a Y chromosome. She is abusive, proud of it and in the same breath denies it. In my 40+ years, I have not encountered a closer match to the boogie-"man" of the domestic violence industry. They should excoriate her. Any bets on as to whether they will?
July 9th, 2007 at 5:07 am
I'm sure many remember the standing ovations afforded Lorena Bobbit. Violence against men, the more grotesque the better, is empowering for women apparently.
July 9th, 2007 at 6:47 am
I hope she doesn't have any children, what happens if one of them were to say "one thing she doesn' t like" when she's drinking? Her husband should get out of this marriage now or at the very least, insist that she get some counsleling immediately.
July 9th, 2007 at 8:51 am
Being the idiot I am, I am with a woman just like this, only she doesn't need the drinking part! She fits the perfect profile of an abuser. Just google "warning signs of abuser" and you'll find DOZENS of websites that say how "he" will act before abusing you..etc.. always "him" as we all know. My wife fits them all! Jealous... cuts me off from my family and friends... demands to know where I am at all times. hits me.. all sorts of great stuff. I can't wait till she starts in on our 2 boys. Oh well, what can I do. Not much help for men like me. Then again, I'm not always sure I want out... so therefore, I act like the typcal "abused woman".. "but she loves me" Heh... I suck.
July 9th, 2007 at 11:56 am
Tee hee!
Isn't she cuuuuuuute?
July 9th, 2007 at 3:32 pm
The first rule of Fight Club is never talk about Fight Club. Lallapalooza is a word that means 'Kick dad in the balls' in a proud and forceful way. I'm waiting for the sequel to that movie 'Burning Bed'. Amy Winehouse stars in 'Burning Bed 2'. PG-13
July 9th, 2007 at 3:41 pm
Whatever you do Big Daddy keep your hands in your pockets, and hope she doesn' kill you. good luck
July 9th, 2007 at 4:19 pm
Big Daddy,
One of the advantages of two parent homes is a sort of "checks and balances" thing. When one parent, through stress or just plain evil, decides to take their frustration out on the children the other parent can step in and protect them. Your kids have something that is getting rarer and rarer in society a father and a mother in the home. When you say you can't wait 'till she starts in your two boys,(and she will.) It conjures up images of being beaten by my mother like I stole something for the most trivial of things. Sometimes the only thing that stopped her was boyfriend. And if he wasn't here, oh well. If you ain't gon' stand up for yourself then do it for your kids. You don't want them thinking that a man's role is to be abused. If you won't use force, the use THE force, anything, but don't stand by and watch, while your kills their spirit.
July 9th, 2007 at 4:25 pm
Big Daddy,
One of the advantages of two parent homes is a sort of "checks and balances" thing. When one parent, through stress or just plain evil, decides to take their frustration out on the children the other parent can step in and protect them. Your kids have something that is getting rarer and rarer in society a father and a mother in the home. When you say you can't wait 'till she starts in your two boys,(and she will.) It conjures up images of being beaten by my mother like I stole something for the most trivial of things. Sometimes the only thing that stopped her was her boyfriend. And if he wasn't here, oh well. If you ain't gon' stand up for yourself then do it for your kids. You don't want them thinking that a man's role is to be abused. If you won't use force, the use THE force, anything, but don't stand by and watch, while your wife kills their spirit.
July 9th, 2007 at 5:01 pm
Big Daddy, please check out these two sites -- they're two of the most prominent nationwide sites in the U.S. for male victims of domestic abuse:
Stop Abuse for EVERYONE: www.safe4all.org
The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women: http://www.dahmw.org/pub/
If you do not live in the United States, let me know, and I can help you try to find similar organizations in your country of residence.
July 10th, 2007 at 10:41 am
Let her keep running off at the mouth. What she admitted to is now public record. Her husband can burn her good with her own words. If he is smart #1 he will cut her off from alcohol and #2 get her into anger management. She has anger issues or she would not act like that while drunk, either.
And Mrs. Bobbit should have done long, hard time. OK, so he cheated, that does not mean you have the right to do something like that! It's called walk out the door and let the little tramp have him. Best revenge is to go on and have a good life on your own. That works for both men and women, btw.
July 10th, 2007 at 3:37 pm
Big Daddy,
I would suggest you look at a site called: http://dontmakehermad.com/
I would seriously suggest investing in electronic surveilence (?sp). Look dude, you may not think you need it now, but by the time you DO need it - it may be too late.
I do not say this as a guy screwed by the female-sympathetic "justice" system, but as a kid who grew up as the CHILD who then became the object of abuse. Slapping, false allegations (she abused - but I "deserved it" / she was "defending herself"), character assasination (therefore pre-discrediting me) etc.
I WISH my step father had had the nuts to have done electronic surveilence. Not to imprison my mother (whom I DO love dearly), but to document it, so we could have gotten her (and us) into treatment to stop the abuse.
YOU may not mind this abuse (or just tolerate it), but how will you feel if your wife starts in on the kids. Be VERY clear - if she thinks you will report her, or even just try to get her to counseling to get it documented, she will "911" you to discredit you so that she can do this with impunity - and also do this to your kids - all the while smugly telling her friends how YOU abuse HER.
I know that scenario - I went through it. Do you want your kids typing this message 20 years later giving some other dad this advice? After they endure YEARS of abuse?
Get electronic surveilence - her slapping, hitting, justifying etc - and a LOT of it - so it's not : "It was just this one time - because HE abused ME". Then the FIRST time she abuses the kids, DEMAND counseling. Demand she own up to it in counseling, and bring the proof (after you make copies - some you leave with a LAWYER).
You don't want to see your kids abused - take steps.
With abiding respect,
Steven
July 12th, 2007 at 1:58 am
Ms. Wine house obviously needs help, she should at least be contacted by the D.A. in her hometown and advised that she can be incarcerated for abuse even if her boyfriend doesn't press charges. Or is it just men that get that treatment?
July 12th, 2007 at 9:16 am
So, when her new husband finally has had enough of her abuse and is pushed to desperation and "snaps", will he get sympathy and just a slap on the wrist if he blows her brains out with a shotgun?
July 13th, 2007 at 12:18 am
Big Daddy, You can do what you want. But if your woman abuses a little puppy, a labrador retriever puppy, you might be obligated to whack her with a baseball batt. Puppys just cross the line with me.
October 23rd, 2007 at 4:35 pm
"I don't think your ability to fight has anything to do with how big you are. It's to do with how much anger is in you." - Amy Winehouse
Amy talks like someone who doesn't know about fighting or sports. Big people kick the crap out of little people every day because they're bigger.
Smaller people can even the odds or better with bad tempers and martial arts, but it can't make every fight a fair one.
Amy can beat her boyfriend because he still wants to be with her afterward. That's no one else's business.
October 30th, 2007 at 12:24 pm
You guys are all missing it - it's a "fight and fu**" relationship. You know, sadomasochism?
April 17th, 2008 at 10:33 am
My children were not beaten by their Dad but they saw enough of him abusing me to be badly affected by it. Big Daddy, think about your children. I still loved him as I signed the divorce papers. I did it for my children and they are much better for it. A two parent home is what we all want for our kids but it's no good if one of those parents is a monster (male or female) and if they are not prepared to make big changes.
Some people do change but some people don't. Work out which one she is and do something. Don't just sit there and watch this happen. You're children won't thank you for it.