Background: In my recent blog post Women Tell It: 'Hell Hath No Fury...', I discussed a new book about second wives. The book discusses vindictive, "hell hath no fury" ex-wives who destroy fathers' relationships with their children and extort money from them--from the perspective of these men's current wives.

I've asserted that often it's the woman who dumps the man and then is bitter that he finds someone else, and the book provides some examples.

The letter below is from a female reader who didn't like what I wrote.

"I think as a ex-wife I can say that men want the cake and bring a jug of milk, too! I have 4 children, and my ex is still with the woman he left us for. I can say that this slut woman comes before his children. Am I upset? Damn right. I could care less who he puts in his bed, but do I care if my children have what they should have or need. He takes his bitch on trips, and is never there for the kids. Oh, and this woman came to my baby shower for my last son, to let me know my ex was with her. As to child support, it isn't enough to cover basic needs.

"The facts show that a child's living standard goes down by 48% [after divorce]. That is a lot, but the men don't have to look the kids in the eye and see the hurt when you tell them they can't have something or play a sport because you can't afford it. Just so long as daddy is happy! 

"Maybe if men had to have the children, they wouldn't walk away so easy. Men can't ever do the right thing. They smell fresh you know what, and they're off and running. That is why so many kids grow up without fathers. As to being a bad ex....I stay as far away from him as I can. What goes around, comes around. I don't want my children or myself near him when it all comes down. And men know it will, because karma is the real bitch here, and she kicks hard. So man up and do right by your kids, even when you didn't by your ex."

This entry was posted on Saturday, August 11th, 2007 at 1:28 am and is filed under Child Support/Child Support Enforcement, Fatherhood, Marriage, Divorce/Separation/Child Custody, Stepparents, Second Wives, Gender Issues (Misc.). You can trackback from your own site.