[Note: Paul wrote this letter in response to my blog post 'My husband reads your site and is angry at me because 'my feminism' caused all these problems for men.'] 

Happy New Year all.  May 2008 be a less discriminating time for all people, extra attention being given to men.

I will start by stating my disappointment in Glenn for his blame the victim approach to my quandary and that of men in general.  While I do agree that men certainly need to become much more aware and take a stand against the systemic implementation of legalized misandry, to state that “men, as a whole, have not done much to defend themselves” is the equivalent of stating a rape victim as deserving due to her provocative attire and not saying [no] enough or fighting back against the aggressor/rapist.  Very disturbing and disappointing viewpoint Glenn. 

Glenn let me ask you; would a Jew be grateful to have a former Nazi who supported the evil regime stand next to them simply because this former Nazi now admits that “They were wrong?”  All the while this former Nazi does nothing to fix the damage that their former ignorance has inflicted on its victims?  I doubt that any Jew would be offering such gleeful appreciation of this one time Nazi.  The concept I am expecting is that of paying penance for ones sins.  If one has done wrong by someone, they must make efforts to overcome and fix the damage that they have inflicted. 

Of all people Glenn, I would expect you to know that without action, words are valueless.  What I am looking for is more than hollow words of understanding; I require and desire to see efforts to aid in the undoing of what the former indirect support of [feminism] has caused.

Lastly in my direct response to Glenn, I disagree that in the 80’s women had legitimate grievances.  The original purpose of the feminist movement was to grant women the unearned equal rights of there male peers. A noble and honorable cause that they achieved many many years ago.

I say “unearned” equal right for the following reasons.  Let us remember that not too long ago the only people with any rights at all, were the ruling elite.  Men, not women, took up arms and suffered horrid deaths that none of us can even comprehend, in efforts of earning the right to vote etc.  Today this still remains true. The extreme vast majority of blood that is spilled in defense of these rights, is that of men.  In fact, if any woman suffers at all she becomes a hero [Jessica Lynch].  All for doing less than the cumulative millions of her military male counterparts/peers. 

Is any one of us foolish to believe that a man is the true equal of a woman or that a woman is the true equal of a man?  I hope that we are not, as only a fool will argue otherwise.  The current belief of Contemporary American Feminism Theory pushes equality through likeness not equality through value. Men and Women are neither alike nor equal.  We both bring strong attributes and natural skills to the table that enhances one another’s skill sets.  A man and a woman are stronger together when each uses the skills that nature has given them, than either is alone.

Now on to my wife’s question to Glenn and a more complete context of the issue we are facing.  Allow me to start by stating that I do have an amazing wife.  She is very supportive and I am very lucky to have her stand by my side as is she to have me by hers.  She is very intelligent and educated. As time passes and with each discussion she becomes more aware and sensitive to the systemic discrimination that not only the current generation of men face, but the horrible future of enslavement that her son will be subjected to in the future. 

Thank you H!  I hope that you do know that I love you even when I am in my raging rants!  Your support and understanding and most importantly open minded, fair approach makes you all the more remarkable not only as a woman but as a person. 

Your complaint of my directing my anger at “You” is a fair one and I have addressed this issue.  This was an initial reaction that was fueled by more than just this gender/feminist war.  I was angered when you listened to the only femnazi poster on this board whose suggestion of throwing in my face the vindication that is offered by Glenn’s opinion.  Instead you should have listened to other posters like Jay who offered you much better insight into my state of mind and how you can help me.  The act of being sympathetic to my plight and validating my anger and outrage. Followed by supporting the actual cause and belief that you claim was your original intent when blindly proclaiming your association with Feminism.  Now, after angry exchanges between us, you finally see this.  Again we are on the same side and are stronger for our alliance, making us both more able to assure the equality we both desire.

I want to assure you and all women that I have no desire to oppress women or men.  I desire true equality and fairness for all people of all genders.  But most importantly, I want a better world for our children.  We are destroying any hope of happiness that is attained through a real loving relationships where we both partners are needed as parents.  Where we are partners for common gain and happiness, where we do not see one another as adversaries or enemies.  One where we need not always be prepared to protect ourselves while always being armed and prepared to engage in war, The Gender War. 

Make no mistake; no one will EVER win this war.  Men need women, Women need men.  So why are feminists engaging in a war that produces only losers? 

Men are being forced to fight what will be a bloody, brutal battle.  Remember, men are designed by nature to be natural warriors.  In the end we will have terribly unhappy adults and children that we are responsible for destroying.  We will be responsible for their unhappiness. We will be responsible for the missing fulfillment that they feel.  We will be responsible for the demise of society and morality that they will be forced to live in.

Knowing of Hannah’s intellect is why I am so disappointed that she unknowingly allowed herself to be exploited by the very movement she once supported.  Unfortunately, ignorance is not an excuse. Personally I would be very angry with any masculinist group that intentionally deceived me and would take up arms against it if it had ever misused my name, my gender and the system in such an evil way and under the guise of equality. 

I am also convinced that the vast majority of women today do NOT support modern Contemporary American Feminism and its goal of total supremacy and male discrimination.  I believe, from my discussions with so many 20-40 yrs old women, that they miss the pleasures and glory that once came with being a woman, not a perceived oppressor of men.  They miss chivalry and the pleasures of male attention to them as ladies.  Sadly for all of them, those days are gone.

I often do rant when I read how another female sex offender will not spend one day in jail for raping 5 young boys while her male counterparts are serving 15 to life and demonized by the media! 

I do rage when I go to a bar and watch as women get in free and drink free while men have to pay a cover and for all the drinks.  I have heard so many women say its not fair but I am yet to meet or even hear of one woman who has refused to embrace this preferred gender.  Why wouldn’t all feminists refuse such clear gender based discrimination if they truly were interested in equality?  Shouldn’t such behavior be considered insulting to feminists and anyone seeking equality for all?

I do rant when I recall having to wait until I was 30 for my car insurance rates to drop while women wait until 25 years of age. 

I do rant when I recall my refusal into Naval Flight Training because only women were being given guaranteed flight slots.

I do rant when I am denied access to “women’s only” health clubs and facilities when the same businesses for men only” were all shut down by outraged women so many years ago. 

I was diagnosed with a lump in my chest (breast) years ago.  Originally it was diagnosed as atypical later to be changed to typical meaning non malignant.  The problem here is when I went for medial care, with all the money being spent on breast cancer, no equipment was able to properly test me (a man).  I was looked at as though I was a pervert in the waiting rooms as I waited to be seen for my test.  With all of the money spent on breast cancer how can this be?  Not one dime to deal with the male version of the same disease, only women seem to matter, let the men die.

I get angry when I recall my childhood and being manipulated by my mother who, as I can see now as an adult, ritualistically abused my father both physically and mentally right in front of her children and defended it by stating he was an evil son of a bitch who abused her, as she hid behind my fathers male chivalry.  Her manipulation caused my father to lose everything, his family and children included.  She abused him, yet she was protected by the courts and rewarded for her actions.

I get angry when I watch television or a movie and a woman kicks/punches or physically harms a man or damages his property and everyone laughs.  What if it were a woman being beaten?  Can you imagine the outrage? (Anyone seen Carrie Underwoods video?)

If not for my anger, even Hannah herself admits, that she would never have become aware of the systemic problem of legalized male discrimination. 

ANGER… Please all men everywhere do not skip this anger phase. It is terribly important as to assuring that you get heard!  The loudest voice gets heard, the squeaky wheel gets oiled and many of the silent allies of feminism will remain in the dark until men like me/us express our anger and demand to be heard!  Do not let western notions of chivalrous behavior enslave you any longer!  Note, as posted by a women, in this very blog, “what are you a wimp”, the use of expected slavery of males via western notions of chivalrous behavior (typically expected by woman) is used to challenge a man’s masculinity in efforts to get the desired response.  Even a man has posted a challenge to my masculinity via notions of chivalrous behavior in his statement of “manning up and not complaining about.” What exactly is “manning up?”  I was unaware that complaining was reserved for women only.  Neither my masculinity nor any other mans masculinity is or should be measured by his servitude to the privileged class of women.  What is your definition of a man?  What definition do you want for you son?

Men must no longer allow their masculinity to be defined by the indoctrination of slave like notions of chivalry that serve to only further promote female privilege.

Chivalry must die and be left dead.

I am, what some may call, a gym rat / body builder and I do get much frustration out on the iron.  Unlike what is suggested by some here, I have no desire to terminate my anger with the current state of male discrimination via kick boxing or any other one off version of physically violent behavior.  My anger needs to be directed, shouted and heard.  What would women have said if men suggested “You should go to more sewing and cooking classes, it gets your anger out and makes you forget how oppressed you are?”

I also must not direct that anger at Hannah.  She is not only my best ally but she is also my best friend, my wife and the mother of my children.  She is my strongest supporter and the love of my life.  I have no problem admitting my dependency and need of her in my life. 

For those to whom it is not clear, what I and so many men are angry about, let me clarify. 

I/We are tired of being a financial provider for women.

I/We do matter and are needed in the lives of our children.

I/We will not allow ourselves to be enslaved by current legislation.

I/We will no longer allow and stand idle for the systemic legalization of misandry.

I/We will not allow a woman to do our job for more money, less work and less quality.

I/We will not be villainized by the simple virtue of being male.

Our blood will be spilled equally in defense of OUR rights/country.

I/We are neither a rapist nor a pedophile simply because we are men.

I/We will NOT stand quietly to the legalization and legalization of male discrimination.

I/We will NOT pay for women’s privileges because we are male.

I/We will NOT be enslaved by modern notions of chivalrous behavior.

I/We will NOT be quiet because that is what you desire.

Yes, women see this as a slavery rebellion!  This stands to take away all the ill gotten gains and privilege that has been attained under the lies of extreme feminists at the cost of all men everywhere.

We ask NOTHING more than exactly what the original feminist movement asked prior to its hijacking. EQUALITY!

It has been stated, and I agree, that I need to start taking more meaningful action against this oppressor.

“Anger precedes Action”

Hannah’s ignorance led to my oppression and to the systemic legalization of both male discrimination and misandry.  I am sorry to those that disagree but yes, she and all others who choose to take on the label of “Feminist” also take on the responsibility of that label, its movement and all that it is responsible for.  There is a lot of accountability that comes with ones choices even if that choice was made in ignorance.  Without support from all of its members (silent or vocal), legislation of anti male laws could never have happened.  Anyone, silent or vocal, who associates themselves with these groups, assumes the accountability of those groups’ actions!  No, Hannah herself if not responsible for modern male slavery, but strength comes in numbers!  She was a number.  She holds some accountability.

The time has come, that time is now.  While we are the enslaved victims of Contemporary American Feminist Theory, our sons are the next generation to be enslaved by it.  Are we, their fathers, uncles, brothers and friends, prepared to allow these boys to fall into the same fate as we have?  Men, who were too afraid to take a stand and say “NO MORE?”  My son, your son, all the boys of future generations are counting on us to free them from the tight grasp of female privilege that has come and continues to come at the cost of male rights and freedom.  I for one will not go to my grave knowing that I did nothing to try and free them from the same fate that my generation of males has allowed to render them utilitarian and strictly functional for female entitlement.  Our forefathers shed their blood for our democratic/political freedoms. I will now stand and fight and shed my blood on that same honorable battlefield.  The battlefield for freedom. 

This is a war, stand up and fight like the centuries of courageous men before you.